One of the most common phrases I hear from clients is:
“I wish I could have you in my back pocket! I want you with me every time I get ready.”
While this is very flattering, it can also be frustrating! I mean, helloooo!!! I want to be in your back pocket too.
(Wait; let me rephrase that, I don’t literally want to be in your pocket. Maybe I should be on your shoulder. Yes, shoulder sounds better. Let’s change it to the stylist on your shoulder. But, back pocket has more of a ring to it… I’m getting off topic!)
But really, that is EXACTLY how I view what I do. I want you to feel like I am always with you. Reminding you how beautiful you are, how you CAN do this, and that the biggest gift you can give yourself is to trust your own instincts.
Here are a few things you can hear me saying on your shoulder (or back pocket as it may be…)
“I can tell how much you LOVE that, why are you second guessing yourself?!”
“I know, that pair of jeans IS more expensive than the Goodwill pair. They will last you 10 times as long, but the call is totally up to you.”
“You already know the answer, listen to your gut and go for that red lipstick!”
“Your ass looks amazing in that romper!”
“I’d like to gently remind you that that sweater you are holding is from Junior High and you haven’t worn it in 15 years. Maybe it’s time to find it a new home?”
“It’s time to stop shopping and get you a coffee. Pick me up time!”
“Never doubt the power of lots of gold accessories.”
I could go on and on of course, but ultimately I want you to take a moment. Think about the last time you got frustrated standing in front of your closet. The thought you always dread seeps into your brain. “I have NOTHING to wear!”
Now I want you to think of it with a different perspective. Take a deep breath and go BACK into the closet. Say this question to yourself:
“If Melanie was here, what would she say?”
My answer will help you find yourself in any style predicament.
“Every problem in your closet is solvable. YOU GOT THIS. Let’s think creatively so you can leave the house feeling great. Tomorrow we can go shopping. For now, let’s focus on what we can work with!”
I know it may sound silly to say “Picture me on your shoulder!” but I’m telling you, I get texts and emails all the time saying “I pictured you there with me and it made shopping way easier!”
There is something about having a stylist with you that makes you think “Yea… I GOT THIS!”. So I’m asking you to be your own stylist in that moment and remind yourself that “YOU GOT THIS!”.
I really do wish I could be with you when you end up in a style pickle. Since that isn’t the reality (yet!), I’m going to continue to give you nuggets of wisdom that will help you when I can’t be there in person. I’m calling these little nuggets “style bombs”.
So let’s all say this style bomb one more time together to really drive it home! Ready?
“Every problem in your closet is solvable. YOU GOT THIS.” Tweet it!
Feel free to write in the comments below with a problem you’ve been having and how you think the reframe of changing your “can’t” to a “hells yes!” will change the outcome!
I’d love to hear it and help! After all, I can’t be in your back pocket but the internet is the next best thing. ;)