About Melanie

Melanie is a stylist who adores bold prints, local farmers markets, and getting down to 90's music.  Her mission is to make women feel confident through their clothes.  This native New Yorker currently resides in the Bay Area with her fantastic husband, brilliant (totally biased) two kiddos and her impossibly cute Boston Terrier.  


Do You Trust Your Fashion Gut? (Free Gift!) 

Photo: Rosa Delgado

This morning I was getting ready for a playdate (which at this age means I like the moms and we hope the kids like each other too) and I decided to pull out my overalls.  Maybe it was the fact that I have a love for fashion of the 90's, maybe it's because playdates make me feel younger, or maybe it's because overalls mean easy breezy cool mom to me (Why?  I have no clue, but I don't question this thought), but I wanted to rock those overalls hard.  So I put them on and instantly started to doubt my decision.  Was this too bold of a move?  Would I look like I was 12?  Have I been watching too much Pretty Little Liars and now I think I'm in high school and this is appropriate when it's not?!  

As you can see I was spiraling.  So I took a moment and did a mental check in.  Why was I doubting my style?  More importantly I was doubting my style intuition.  We all have it, but we have a tendency to think someone else knows it better.  That's the thing about your style.  It's YOUR style.  No one else knows you better or what you like.  So why does this sneak up on us?

When we try to attempt something out of our comfort zone we no longer feel like we are the expert.  I may feel like the master accessorizer and a wiz with a scarf but ask me to wear overalls and the confidence is out the door.  The silly thing is...

EVERYTHING is new before you've done it.  

 I know this seems like an obvious sentence, but it's true.  We get ourselves in this mindset of "I can't do this because I've never done it before."  You don't know until you try.  I tell this to my daughter every.single.day.  Such a true life lesson.  If she has never tried mozzarella cheese how will she ever know the joys that are mozzarella cheese?  Pretty soon she's tried all different kinds of it and knows all about it and loves it.  BUT their was a time she was scared to try it.  Ok, I may be talking too much about cheese here.  Let's get back to the point.  

BAM.  That's right.  I just threw this picture out there to put things TOTALLY in perspective.  You know what you are looking at here?  Some back to school confidence realness.  I love the innocence of childhood style.  I LOVED this swatch watch sweatshirt and I was SO proud of my missing teeth.  I had CLEARLY just gotten these bangs and had no clue they were way too short.  I was loving life and life was loving me.  No doubt in my mind that I was rocking life. I like to throw this picture up on the blog about once a year just to spice up your life.

I completely understand how that doubt creeps in and I'm here to help.  In my course The Confident Closet (open for enrollment September 16!!!) we talk about our style intuition a lot.  Asking the right questions is the first step into true style confidence.  So I'm sharing a style sheet straight from the course.  Just. For. You.  

Click here to download Trusting Your Intuition.  

I'm so excited for you to check out this style sheet.  This gives the perfect glimpse into the course and all the awesomeness that comes along with it.  Definitely check it out.  

The line can sometimes be blurred when it comes to knowing our personal style and stepping outside our comfort zone.  The only way to know if something is your style sometimes is to give it a shot.  If you are intrigued, you go for it.  Just know that going with your gut can never be a bad thing!  Comment below on any "aha" moments, struggles and style woes that come up!  I'm here for ya!

With love; from my closet to yours,


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