About Melanie

Melanie is a stylist who adores bold prints, local farmers markets, and getting down to 90's music.  Her mission is to make women feel confident through their clothes.  This native New Yorker currently resides in the Bay Area with her fantastic husband, brilliant (totally biased) two kiddos and her impossibly cute Boston Terrier.  


The Fashion Rule to Let Go

Hello my Style Blazer!

So tomorrow is Labor Day and have you ever noticed how people are always talking about that one clothing rule around this time?  You know the one, the fashion rule that everyone says but no one knows why.  

"Don't wear white after labor day."  

So I did a little digging.  The rule started back in the 1900's when the wealthy could afford to wear white in the summer months to stay cool.  It became a sign that you had money if you wore white in the summer.  But then during the Depression the poor started to be able to afford white clothes, making them the suburban middle class.  That means that if you followed the rule you were "in the know".  If you didn't follow the rule, it became obvious you weren't upper class.  So clearly this rule is TOTALLY dated. Also, WHO CARES if and when you wear white?!

So now that we have confirmed that this rule is totally old school and silly can we all just agree that we can wear white (or any other color we'd like to) whenever we want?  Great.  While we are at it can we also just forget fashion rules all together?  I know this may sound silly coming from a stylist but I just have never been one to care.  Fashion changes and evolves and something that used to be a rule no longer applies.  Of course, there are certain things you can do to make flatter your shape, or really bring out your personality.  To me those are individual style choices that are working for you at the moment.  Not someone else saying "don't mix metals" arbitrarily.  Here are the only three rules I really care about:

1) Only Wear Clothes You Love.

If you don't love it, it doesn't really matter if you think you are "supposed to" love it.  Ask yourself why you don't love it.  There will either be a fixable problem, like it needs to be hemmed or a not fixable problem like a sentimental reason.  If you don't like something because someone gave it to you and you can't detach the emotion from the clothing, chances are you should donate it. 

2) Wear Clothes That Make You Feel Amazing.

If something makes you feel uncomfortable when you wear it, really dig deeper.  Is it the bold print?  Is it the shape?  Is it that the fabric itches?  What is making you not feel like the best version of yourself?  

3) Wear Clothing that Fits You Physically AND Mentally.

We have a tendency to buy things either too big or too small.  We don't always know our size and the mind is a tricky thing.  Buying clothes that fit you correctly help so much with confidence.  That being said, there are some very cool clothes that aren't necessarily the most flattering.  People differ on this, but I genuinely don't think everything in your closet should be there strictly because it's flattering.  You need to like it too.  For example, I was given a bunch of a friends old maternity clothes.  They were flattering because they had ruching on the side to make room for my changing body which was great.  Unfortunately they just really weren't my style.  I still felt self concious even though I knew that the clothes were flattering.  Some of my maternity clothes were flowy and not as flattering and that's ok.  I felt more confident knowing that what I was wearing felt cool and unique than I would have in a flattering dress that was totally not me.  

Ultimately, you decide the rules.  You decide what you love and what you don't.  Confusion comes in when we start to doubt that we know the answers.  If you want to wear white, wear white.  Wear a freakin wedding dress to lunch with your friends.  Well.. that might be a little creepy.  Maybe don't do that... but my point is this:

Trust your intuition.  Wear the color that makes you feel the best.  That confidence will radiate through you.  

Have a great Labor Day loves!  

With love; from my closet to yours,


P.S.  Are you getting ready for the Fall round of The Confident Closet?!  An online course to help you purge, organize and build a wardrobe for confidence and personal style. You'll be able to join us in just two short weeks!  Until then check out my FREE video training series The Three Mistakes People Make In Their Closets (and what to do about it).  Sign up here and get them right to your inbox.  

Photos: Krista Marie Photography Hair and Makeup: Melissa Hoffmann 


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