About Melanie

Melanie is a stylist who adores bold prints, local farmers markets, and getting down to 90's music.  Her mission is to make women feel confident through their clothes.  This native New Yorker currently resides in the Bay Area with her fantastic husband, adorable, chubby baby and her impossibly cute puppy.  

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The Tale of The "Cool" Mama

Hey there style blazers!

With Mother’s Day fast approaching I started to think about all of my favorite mamas, mamas to be and everything in between.  There is SO much I learned once becoming a mom that I didn’t know before.  Some of these things are pretty obvious, like now I know what is a good diaper rash cream and how to keep baby clothes from shrinking.  Then there are the not so obvious things.  For example, I had NO idea how much my perspective would change on time.  Also, you can not foresee how much your priorities shift.  I also learned that things that used to embarrass me or that I would give some thought to just didn’t matter anymore.  

Here’s a perfect example: I used to have so much time to get ready in the morning. I didn’t even realize it was a lot of time before it was gone! As a personal stylist and confidence coach, one of the first things I teach women is about how to allow for time in the morning to get ready. How this little fact can totally change your mood for the entire day. So I felt pretty ridiculous when I woke up late the other morning and met up with my client BEFORE I realized I had a big ol dried oatmeal stain on my shirt. This used to be something that I would be embarassed by. For a moment, I froze thinking what my client would think of me?? Instead I laughed and brought it to her attention.

This is my life as a personal stylist and a rockin’ mama - I own my oatmeal stain and food glazed hair because that’s what having a toddler and a busy life as an entrepreneur will do to you. Somewhere along the line, we have decided that being a Mom is an “uncool” thing. We do anything we can to avoid the dreaded “mom jean” or “looking like a mom”. I just don’t buy it. To me, if I can run my business, take care of my household (so the laundry gets done a week late.. it still happens!), be a good friend, wife, mom, daughter and still manage to have killer unique personal style… I deserve all the medals. There is nothing lame about it. In fact, I think all us mamas should be admired. I also don’t think that a little oatmeal or waking up late should change that.  We should take ownership of our messy mom lives! Chaos and mess can live harmoniously with confidence if we let it.

I can be an unconventional stylist. You normally don’t hear people who love fashion talking proudly about the stains on their shirt. Nor do you hear people who love fashion not caring much about the latest fashion trends (gasp!). What gets me excited about fashion isn’t always the clothes, shoes or accessories. It’s the woman wearing them and the feeling she has when she feels amazing in something she loves. I’m way more interested in how the dress makes you feel. If something isn’t working and making them feel confident -  I want nothing to do with it.

Currently I’m pregnant with a baby boy and a mama to a very adorable and sassy toddler. I am surrounded by amazing moms everyday. I love helping these busy women combine the style they had before they had kids with who they are NOW. We are all in this crazy mama game together, and the last thing we need is to be associated with is a stereotype of “uncool Mama” that bares no truth to our reality. To me, finding  your unique personal style and trusting your intuition help tremendously when getting dressed for optimal confidence. Also, us moms need to focus on all that we ARE.  Not all that we used to be or think we should be. I really believe they are the cornerstones to a more confident lifestyle, as well as a closet you love and that works for you. I’d like for us all to start changing the stigma around mama style and believe we can do so through one small act.

No more apologizing for our “cool mama-ness”. Start to view all your crazy mom antics as what makes you amazing, not something you need to be sorry about. Cause ever mama deserves to rock those killer mom jeans with pride!  

Whether you are a mama or not, chances are you have a lot on your plate, and your confidence level could use a bit of a boost.  Who knows, maybe you are not a mama, but you really want to wear “mom jeans” with pride!  With all of my style blazers in mind I created a five day challenge called The Confident Style Challenge.

Five days of confidence boosting acts that can lead to big results. Oh!!!  Also, one lucky lady will win a FREE spot in my online closet clean out course The Confident Closet.  This winner will be picked at the end of the challenge on Friday, May 8th.   

With love; from my closet to yours,

 

Melanie


 

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Melanie,
I recently discovered your blog and am so glad I did! I'm so proud to share an alma mater with you. I only wish you were east coast based so we could work together. Cheers to your success and much to come!
Christine

May 3, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterChristine Mazzarino

Hi Christine!! You are SO sweet! Happy to share an alma mater with you as well! Stay tuned because I'm coming out with a lot of online options to work with me going forward! Sending you lots of love!

May 11, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterMelanie

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